📝 Perfectionism Is Not Discipline: Letting Go to Write Better

Katrina De Milano
20 сент. 2025 г.
2 мин. чтения

There’s a moment — quiet but unmistakable — when what we call dedication begins to feel less like devotion and more like tension.

You open your laptop, stare at the blinking cursor, and before you’ve written a single word, you’re already editing it in your mind.

The desire to do the work is there. The discipline, too. But something has shifted beneath the surface: the process no longer feels like creation.

It feels like a test.

And that’s often the first sign that perfectionism has taken the wheel.

🎭 The Illusion of “Perfect”

We’re taught to value discipline — and rightly so. Discipline is essential.

But perfectionism is not the same thing.

Where discipline is steady and compassionate, perfectionism is brittle and controlling.

It demands. It accuses. It suffocates possibility.

At a glance, perfectionism looks like commitment. You reread a sentence twelve times. You rework a scene that isn’t finished. You delay moving forward until the first paragraph “sparkles.”

It feels like effort — but it’s not momentum.

It’s paralysis, dressed as productivity.

🧭 What Real Discipline Looks Like

Discipline isn’t about doing it perfectly — it’s about doing it anyway.

It doesn’t obsess over every word before moving on.

It accepts that first drafts are, by nature, flawed.

True discipline says:

“Show up again today.”
“Let it be messy — you’ll return to it.”
“You can’t improve what doesn’t exist.”

It’s not glamorous.

But it’s faithful.

😶‍🌫️ The Fear Beneath the Surface

Perfectionism often grows from fear:

Fear of writing something bad
Fear of being judged
Fear of not being good enough

And so we control the page.

We polish before we explore.

We hide behind edits, hoping we won’t be seen until we’re ready.

But the truth is simple and hard:

To write something real, you have to be willing to write something wrong.

✍️ Let the Work Be Wild

Try writing like no one will read it — yet.

Let your scenes wander. Let your characters surprise you. Let your pacing wobble.

Give yourself permission to write a paragraph that falls flat.

You don’t discover your voice by perfecting it.

You discover it by following it — even when it leads you somewhere unexpected.

🌱 Letting Go Isn’t Weakness — It’s Growth

Letting go of perfectionism doesn’t mean you don’t care about quality.

It means you trust that quality is a destination, not a starting point.

It means you believe the real magic happens not on the first draft —

but in the drafts that come after, once the raw material is finally there.

So ask yourself honestly:

Where in your writing process do you hold your breath?

Where do you hesitate, tighten, revise too early?

And what might happen if you loosened your grip —

just enough to let the story breathe?

💬 Let’s Talk

Have you struggled with perfectionism in your creative process?

What helps you push through it — or let go of it?

Drop your thoughts in the comments. You’re not alone in this.

by Katrina De Milano